Yes, yes, I know Sam’s writing another blog post about dating but it’s a huge part of my life right now and it’s throwing up some interesting questions, one of which is around what constitutes a good or a bad date.
I went on a date last Friday which I would consider to be the worst date I’ve ever been on and I’ll be honest and say that after an hour I made it perfectly clear that he and I were never going to be having a goodnight kiss or a second date. That in itself isn’t bothering me, I fully expected to go on some rubbish dates, what’s bothering me is what made it bad. I hadn’t really thought about this until I realised I couldn’t answer people’s questions about why it was bad. “It just was.”
Well now I have thought about it and I have no logical explanation, literally the best thing I have come up with is that some people are compatible and some aren’t. That’s it, there’s no “why” behind it, that is all I have. Let me explain why that’s all I have…
Ages ago now, I went on a date and the guy opened with: “So, what would you do if this place was attacked by zombies right now?”. You might think that’s weird and yes, it is but it’s also pretty original and I rate originality. Except when this guy said it I wanted to shake him and scream at him that it’s no wonder he’s single. Why? Well, I don’t know why, maybe I just didn’t like his face.
Friday’s date, I met him in town and we went to bar for a drink. Fine. Except instantly I met him I wasn’t interested. Take me back to January however and it’s a different story, I did I similar thing, met a guy on a snowy street, went to the pub and instantly liked him. Physically he wasn’t my usual type either but we just clicked and my head (for head, read nether regions) decided that he was ridiculously hot. So what’s the difference? Why is one bloke repulsive to me and the other unbelievably sexy? I got on with both of them over the phone before I met them, so I just don’t get it.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? What is it? Is this something beyond our control or was I actually a grumpy so-and-so on one of the days but I hadn’t realised? Either way, it makes it a heck of a lot harder to decide who to go on dates with because you could end up falling for literally anyone and shooing away who you’d previously thought could be an ideal match!
So in answer to my original question, I literally have no idea what makes a date good or bad, it seems to be some hidden force that we can’t control. On that basis, I think it’s only fair we date everyone until we find the one 😉 x